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Tuesday, 23 November 2010
Where Did You Meet Your Partner?
This is the question that revolves in my head when I hear of troubled marriages. The real question is, does the location where you met your partner matter a great deal in ensuring the long-term success of your marriage? Honestly, to put this little matter at rest, I'd really like to conduct a poll. It will be illuminating to get feedback from readers on where you met your better half.
To set the ball rolling, I'll start with myself. I met my husband at a watch night service (the all important Christian worship that heralds the new year. It holds on the 31st of December each year) in my Church; Arcbishop Vinning Memorial Cathedral Church in Lagos, Nigeria.
Usually, I get into an argument with some friends about whether or not the fact that a couple met at a bar, in a hotel, at a restaurant, bus-stop, city centre, pole dancing club and even more exciting places is a recipe for short-term marriage?
My poll questions are; where did you first set eyes on your spouse? And how long have you been married? Your responses will make an interesting read and certainly, reader's feedback will put to rest the flaky bits about this rather knotty subject.
To set the ball rolling, I'll start with myself. I met my husband at a watch night service (the all important Christian worship that heralds the new year. It holds on the 31st of December each year) in my Church; Arcbishop Vinning Memorial Cathedral Church in Lagos, Nigeria.
Usually, I get into an argument with some friends about whether or not the fact that a couple met at a bar, in a hotel, at a restaurant, bus-stop, city centre, pole dancing club and even more exciting places is a recipe for short-term marriage?
My poll questions are; where did you first set eyes on your spouse? And how long have you been married? Your responses will make an interesting read and certainly, reader's feedback will put to rest the flaky bits about this rather knotty subject.
Wednesday, 17 November 2010
THE GARDENER's ICE MAIDEN - UPDATE
I have a quick update on my current challenge; writing a 50,000 words novel. I have penned down over 37,000 words of THE GARDENER's ICE MAIDEN. It's wonderfully exciting. I'm glad to tell you that Olivia the heroine has taken on a life of her own and Oliver, the hero is having to climb over his ex-convict, ex-gang member status to try and win over this medical doctor!
YOUR MOTIVE FOR MARRIAGE?
One question my husband always asks when he listens to marriage break-ups is, 'What was their motive for marrying each other?' and 'Where did they meet?' Often, we discuss and keep coming back to the basics.
If you're married, I would be delighted to hear from you on WHY you married your wife or husband.
It would be interesting to extend this topic further to talk about right and wrong reasons for marriage. This sounds very fundamental to me. But from personal interactions with many couples, it's possible that many people didn't quite explore their motives for marriage. You may wonder why this is relevant. I'll tell you how relevant your motive for marriage is to the sustainability of your relationship longterm.
Only yesterday (16/11/10), Prince William and Kate Meddleton announced their engagement. It's being long awaited. The whole world is buzzing with excitement. My husband and I were excited just watching Kate constantly look up at her Prince each time she was asked a question during the photocall and formal interview. And, watching William tap her hands and look at her in that romantic and supportive way brought back memoeries for us. Why is that, you may ask. During their interview, my husband told my two kids (10 and 7yrs old) that Kate Meddleton reminds him of me. He told them that during our Church wedding ceremony (4/12/99) we weren't listening to the Preacher or anyone else as we stared constantly into each other's eyes. Our kids laughed so hard. And my son confirmed that, 'Mummy still looks at you in the same way. You two make a perfect couple!'
I've been married for almost eleven years and I still thrust my hand through the crook of my husband's elbow even if we're going down the road or going to pick our kids from school.
I wish Prince William and Kate Meddleton long lasting happiness in their marriage. It's obvious that they are in love. When Kate was asked what she likes about her Prince - she said he was very supportive, he takes care of her, he teaches her... And Prince William said she had a sense of humour he liked and that she was special...
This is very much unlike Prince Charles and Lady Diana's wedding back in 1981. I remember watching that fairytale wedding on live television in Nigeria. I was only 9yrs old. Even then, their marriage seemed like a fairytale, nothing like LOVE oozing from Prince Charles eyes or arms...
Now lets go back to the reasons I married my husband almost eleven years ago. He is down-to-earth, very sensitive (when he takes a look at me, he can easily tell if I'm happy or sad...) exceptionally affectionate, romantic, disciplined (not going off doing anything in excess) he speaks a baggage of wise words... I felt like I'd known him all my life. I'd spent only a couple of hours with him when he popped the question of, 'Will you marry me?' Apparently, my husband knew me and had been planning on asking me to marry him, but I had no clue who he was. My story is so surreal, it's unbelievable. But that's what happens when you've spent endless hours praying for God's choice for you.
When your motive for marriage is pure, virtuous, honest etc. your marriage stands a good chance of weathering the stormy times that are sure to come down the years. But when your motives are dishonest or vile such as for financial security, on the rebound, because you're growing old, you want kids, or you want someone you can control, etc. When those motives expire or you are found out, your marriage might just hit the rocks. True or False?
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Next topic is; Where Did You Meet Your Partner?
If you're married, I would be delighted to hear from you on WHY you married your wife or husband.
It would be interesting to extend this topic further to talk about right and wrong reasons for marriage. This sounds very fundamental to me. But from personal interactions with many couples, it's possible that many people didn't quite explore their motives for marriage. You may wonder why this is relevant. I'll tell you how relevant your motive for marriage is to the sustainability of your relationship longterm.
Only yesterday (16/11/10), Prince William and Kate Meddleton announced their engagement. It's being long awaited. The whole world is buzzing with excitement. My husband and I were excited just watching Kate constantly look up at her Prince each time she was asked a question during the photocall and formal interview. And, watching William tap her hands and look at her in that romantic and supportive way brought back memoeries for us. Why is that, you may ask. During their interview, my husband told my two kids (10 and 7yrs old) that Kate Meddleton reminds him of me. He told them that during our Church wedding ceremony (4/12/99) we weren't listening to the Preacher or anyone else as we stared constantly into each other's eyes. Our kids laughed so hard. And my son confirmed that, 'Mummy still looks at you in the same way. You two make a perfect couple!'
I've been married for almost eleven years and I still thrust my hand through the crook of my husband's elbow even if we're going down the road or going to pick our kids from school.
I wish Prince William and Kate Meddleton long lasting happiness in their marriage. It's obvious that they are in love. When Kate was asked what she likes about her Prince - she said he was very supportive, he takes care of her, he teaches her... And Prince William said she had a sense of humour he liked and that she was special...
This is very much unlike Prince Charles and Lady Diana's wedding back in 1981. I remember watching that fairytale wedding on live television in Nigeria. I was only 9yrs old. Even then, their marriage seemed like a fairytale, nothing like LOVE oozing from Prince Charles eyes or arms...
Now lets go back to the reasons I married my husband almost eleven years ago. He is down-to-earth, very sensitive (when he takes a look at me, he can easily tell if I'm happy or sad...) exceptionally affectionate, romantic, disciplined (not going off doing anything in excess) he speaks a baggage of wise words... I felt like I'd known him all my life. I'd spent only a couple of hours with him when he popped the question of, 'Will you marry me?' Apparently, my husband knew me and had been planning on asking me to marry him, but I had no clue who he was. My story is so surreal, it's unbelievable. But that's what happens when you've spent endless hours praying for God's choice for you.
When your motive for marriage is pure, virtuous, honest etc. your marriage stands a good chance of weathering the stormy times that are sure to come down the years. But when your motives are dishonest or vile such as for financial security, on the rebound, because you're growing old, you want kids, or you want someone you can control, etc. When those motives expire or you are found out, your marriage might just hit the rocks. True or False?
See my website to check out my inspirational, contemporary romance novels; http://www.flirtyandflirtyromancenovel.co.uk/
Next topic is; Where Did You Meet Your Partner?
Saturday, 6 November 2010
THE GARDENER'S ICE MAIDEN
There is amazing news from Flirty and Feisty Romance Novels. Only yesterday, I entered a competition to write a brand new title called;THE GARDENER's ICE MAIDEN. It's an awesome challenge because I will have to start and complete this 50,000 words novel in November 2010. And, I started today, 6th November 2010!
I think I'm going a bit wacky! Why? You wonder. I'm still in the middle of editing my latest novel and here I am, embracing a whole, new, testy challenge. I love writing romance fiction. And if there's a competition anywhere in the world, I'd go for it headlong. Nothing gives me more pleasure than sitting by my computer with my fingers flying over the keys generating a brand new novel.
For our valued readers eagerly awaiting our promised upcoming new novel; BEYOND the LADY, which is due out before Christmas 2010, the schedule isn't affected by this new challenge.
BEYOND the LADY will be out in time for you to order it as a gift for your friends, families and colleagues at Christmas. Watch out and be the first to read the exciting story about a woman of easy virtue who intends to rock the world of a geneorus and religiously minded man...
I think I'm going a bit wacky! Why? You wonder. I'm still in the middle of editing my latest novel and here I am, embracing a whole, new, testy challenge. I love writing romance fiction. And if there's a competition anywhere in the world, I'd go for it headlong. Nothing gives me more pleasure than sitting by my computer with my fingers flying over the keys generating a brand new novel.
For our valued readers eagerly awaiting our promised upcoming new novel; BEYOND the LADY, which is due out before Christmas 2010, the schedule isn't affected by this new challenge.
BEYOND the LADY will be out in time for you to order it as a gift for your friends, families and colleagues at Christmas. Watch out and be the first to read the exciting story about a woman of easy virtue who intends to rock the world of a geneorus and religiously minded man...
Sunday, 31 October 2010
BEYOND the LADY
I've been neck deep editing my third, inspirational, romance novel; BEYOND the LADY...
I'm totally absorbed and carried away with the depth and strength of the characters I've created in Vanessa and Frederick. Their personalities are utterly arresting.
Vanessa is engaged in the age long career of prostitution. She's driven to it by events in her life. Fred on the other hand is a moralist, fired up with religion. Their coming together is unplanned, their staying together is contrived and the unfolding drama leaves you with a few streaks of tears and a kick in your chest...
BEYOND the LADY is a story inspired by the many years of global stigma tainting any young woman of Bini origin, who lived outside the walls of Benin City, Edo State, Nigeria.
The stigma is a direct consequence of the actions and exploits of young Bini ladies plying their trade as prostitutes in Italy.
I have found writing this story exciting, stimulating and thoroughly fulfilling.
BEYOND the LADY will be out before Christmas 2010 by God's Grace.
I'm totally absorbed and carried away with the depth and strength of the characters I've created in Vanessa and Frederick. Their personalities are utterly arresting.
Vanessa is engaged in the age long career of prostitution. She's driven to it by events in her life. Fred on the other hand is a moralist, fired up with religion. Their coming together is unplanned, their staying together is contrived and the unfolding drama leaves you with a few streaks of tears and a kick in your chest...
The stigma is a direct consequence of the actions and exploits of young Bini ladies plying their trade as prostitutes in Italy.
I have found writing this story exciting, stimulating and thoroughly fulfilling.
BEYOND the LADY will be out before Christmas 2010 by God's Grace.
Saturday, 16 October 2010
Would You Lie To Your Partner?
Sometimes, you hear people say they will lie to protect their spouse or family. At other times, some people say lying is acceptable if it means not hurting your partner.
Under what circumstance would lying to your spouse be acceptable? However, before we jump into answering that question, let's start from the basics; would you lie to your spouse at all? I mean, would your first instinct be to lie when asked a question by your partner? For example, you decide to stop over for a few drinks on your way from work with a few of your colleagues. But you hadn't mentioned it to your partner previously because it was a spontaneous outing. So, you run a bit late. You get a call from your partner asking you where you are and who you are with. Would your first reaction be to avoid speaking specifically about where you've been and who you've been with? Or would you naturally give your spouse the graphic details of your outing? Now, if you know your partner wouldn't be happy about your 'little outing', you might be tempted not to state the truth as it is, right? You might want to hesitate or discolour the simple facts. Therefore, you would have to lie or hold back the truth because you've done the exact opposite of what your partner would accept.
My take on that is, you've got to know what your spouse likes and dislikes. Discuss it and let him/her know that even though they dislike your going along to drinks with your colleagues, you enjoy loosening up right after a stressful day. When this simple matter is established and is accepted beforehand, you wouldn't need to lie or gloss over the facts.
If you can't be trusted with little things like, 'where have you been?', 'Why isn't my food ready?' etc. How can you be trusted with bigger issues such as; 'why are you back home so late?'
Personally, I don't think lying, discolouring the truth, paint brushing the lie or distorting the truth is necessary or sustainable at all.
My opinion?
Stick to the truth like magnet to metal and you wouldn't have anything to worry about in the long run. It's hard to keep track of lies. LIES have short legs. Lies aren't acceptable under any circumstance to me. When you lie (no matter how small, or white or black) trust is totally eroded. When TRUST evaporates in a relationship, nothing is left. Not even love. Because your partner becomes paranoid, suspecting you and watching you like a hawk. Eventually, you feel choked and the pressure gets to you. It's unhealthy for a relationship and it just might crack it open! Surely, your lies will eventually find you out because NOTHING is hidden under the sun.
I would really like readers views on this knotty issue
Under what circumstance would lying to your spouse be acceptable? However, before we jump into answering that question, let's start from the basics; would you lie to your spouse at all? I mean, would your first instinct be to lie when asked a question by your partner? For example, you decide to stop over for a few drinks on your way from work with a few of your colleagues. But you hadn't mentioned it to your partner previously because it was a spontaneous outing. So, you run a bit late. You get a call from your partner asking you where you are and who you are with. Would your first reaction be to avoid speaking specifically about where you've been and who you've been with? Or would you naturally give your spouse the graphic details of your outing? Now, if you know your partner wouldn't be happy about your 'little outing', you might be tempted not to state the truth as it is, right? You might want to hesitate or discolour the simple facts. Therefore, you would have to lie or hold back the truth because you've done the exact opposite of what your partner would accept.
My take on that is, you've got to know what your spouse likes and dislikes. Discuss it and let him/her know that even though they dislike your going along to drinks with your colleagues, you enjoy loosening up right after a stressful day. When this simple matter is established and is accepted beforehand, you wouldn't need to lie or gloss over the facts.
If you can't be trusted with little things like, 'where have you been?', 'Why isn't my food ready?' etc. How can you be trusted with bigger issues such as; 'why are you back home so late?'
Personally, I don't think lying, discolouring the truth, paint brushing the lie or distorting the truth is necessary or sustainable at all.
My opinion?
Stick to the truth like magnet to metal and you wouldn't have anything to worry about in the long run. It's hard to keep track of lies. LIES have short legs. Lies aren't acceptable under any circumstance to me. When you lie (no matter how small, or white or black) trust is totally eroded. When TRUST evaporates in a relationship, nothing is left. Not even love. Because your partner becomes paranoid, suspecting you and watching you like a hawk. Eventually, you feel choked and the pressure gets to you. It's unhealthy for a relationship and it just might crack it open! Surely, your lies will eventually find you out because NOTHING is hidden under the sun.
I would really like readers views on this knotty issue
Thursday, 7 October 2010
FLIRTY & FEISTY ROMANCE NOVEL LAUNCHES IT'S WEBSITE!!!
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HOW TO KEEP YOUR MAN 4!
Rule no 7; PRAY
In every aspects of life, especially in marriage, don't underestimate the power or role of prayer. When you're in difficulties, PRAY. When your relationship is thriving, thank GOD. If it's lukewarm, ask for GOD's wisdom (ideas) on how to spice it up!
When you took the fantastic decision to stand before your family and friends, in front of a Priest to love each other forever, you also swore in front of GOD. Therefore, never leave GOD out of the relationship. Am talking from experience. God answers prayers. All it takes is for YOU to believe He is a rewarder of those that diligently seek HIM and that HE LOVES YOU!
Rule no 7; PRAY
In every aspects of life, especially in marriage, don't underestimate the power or role of prayer. When you're in difficulties, PRAY. When your relationship is thriving, thank GOD. If it's lukewarm, ask for GOD's wisdom (ideas) on how to spice it up!
When you took the fantastic decision to stand before your family and friends, in front of a Priest to love each other forever, you also swore in front of GOD. Therefore, never leave GOD out of the relationship. Am talking from experience. God answers prayers. All it takes is for YOU to believe He is a rewarder of those that diligently seek HIM and that HE LOVES YOU!
Monday, 27 September 2010
7 Rules on How To Keep Your Woman or Man - continued
Welcome to Advice Bench!
Here is the conclusion on the post.
Rule No. 5
LOVE-MAKING - The most important
Love making is vital in a healthy relationship, the way blood flows in our veins. If I have to personally score this all important rule, it will tilt well above 9 out of 10!
But even if sex was great and nagging was high, over time, your husband would seek peace elsewhere. Sex thrives better where there is peace.
However, you and your spouse must ensure love making is exploratory, spontaneous, adventurous and exciting. It is got to be so exciting that the thought of the next session is enough to make you tingle.
Explore your bodies together, find out what you enjoy and do it with joyous. Sex within the confines of marriage is God sent and meant to be enjoyed, not endured.
To put your spouse in the mood, you can send lewd texts, the type that would make him or her want to tear off your clothes the minute he or she walks into the house, or the minute you put the kids away.
Rule No. 5
GOOD FOOD
You can't possibly be boring where food is concerned. If you are out of ideas, ask your friends, go on the internet, watch TV, take a cookery course, do anything and everything to try new recipes.
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The minute you know your spouse's tastes, fix those meals and the variations of the meal as well.
Dear Husband, every so often, step into the kitchen and take charge. Cook your wife a meal, any meal, her favourite meal, whatever! And you will be glad you did.
And, after cooking, serve the food with a smile and a kiss and sit together to enjoy.
Rule No. 6
PUT THE KIDS AWAY EARLY
This allows you free time with your spouse. Very important for bonding all through the years of marriage. It is an opportunity to talk about everything under the sun, tease each other, laugh together, share your tensions, fears and stress.
If you never spend time together because you are consistently distracted and legally occupied by your attention-seeking children, when the children eventually leave the home, what happens? I will tell you.
There will be a yawning gap in your relationship and you will become increasingly uncomfortable when you are together. Why? Because you have nothing to talk about. You have drifted far apart over the years. You can't even carry on a conversation for an hour.
Can you not predict what happens afterwards? I can.
Your husband can't wait to get out of the home fast enough each day and night, and eventually, you may have had enough of the loneliness, lack of attention, sexless marriage etc. and you eventually pick up the courage to file for divorce.
It was only a kiss of death waiting to happen.
There is something you can do NOW. Hopefully, your children came after you met. So you should be strong friends all through your marriage, so that when they leave, you reminisce over the years you have built together.
Friendship in a relationship is not automatic. It takes time and effort. So start to build yours today with your spouse. In your later years, you will still hold hands when one of you is bent over.
Rule No. 7
PRAY
In every aspect of life, especially in marriage, don't underestimate the power or role of prayer.
When you are in difficulty, PRAY.
When your relationship is thriving, thank GOD.
If it's lukewarm, ask for GOD's wisdom (ideas) on how to spice it up.
When you took the fantastic decision to stand before your family and friends, in front of a Priest to love each other forever, you also swore in front of GOD.
Therefore, never leave GOD out of your relationship. I'm talking from experience. God answers prayers. All it takes is for YOU to believe He is a rewarder of those that diligently seek HIM and that HE LOVES YOU!
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Love
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Thursday, 16 September 2010
FLIRTY & FEISTY ROMANCE NOVELS HAS FANTASTIC NEWS!!!
Two days ago on the 14th of September 2010, Flirty & Feisty Romance Novels released a 2nd title; STORMY DEFENSE. It's a vibrant, tumultuous and sensational affair!
Take a sneaky preview at this thrilling and emotional, go-getting story;
At thirty-four, gutsy TV Presenter Kimberly Clark, was doing her best to stay focused on her job. She didn't want any distraction. but when she hopped on a train from work, she got more than she bargained for. Up against sexy Derek, there are sparks of fury and fireworks.
Charming Fitness Instructor, Derek Peterson at twenty-seven was only interested in expanding his sports business. There was no room for entagnlement however brief. when he runs across Kimberly, his only viable plan is a one night stand. Fiercely determined that the battle of wills is one he was bound to win, will his unstoppable charm bring the independent Kim to her knees?
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Take a sneaky preview at this thrilling and emotional, go-getting story;
At thirty-four, gutsy TV Presenter Kimberly Clark, was doing her best to stay focused on her job. She didn't want any distraction. but when she hopped on a train from work, she got more than she bargained for. Up against sexy Derek, there are sparks of fury and fireworks.
Charming Fitness Instructor, Derek Peterson at twenty-seven was only interested in expanding his sports business. There was no room for entagnlement however brief. when he runs across Kimberly, his only viable plan is a one night stand. Fiercely determined that the battle of wills is one he was bound to win, will his unstoppable charm bring the independent Kim to her knees?
Readers of this blog are being offered a 10% discount on STORMY DEFENSE. It's easy. Simply type in this discount code; 6LS7AAFY into www.createspace.com/3471917 e-store.
Thursday, 2 September 2010
7 Rules on How To Keep Your Man or Woman #Dating #Marriage
Welcome to Advice Bench!
Every woman wants to retain the attention and love of their man for a long time.
So how can they do this? There are 7 rules.
Rule No. 1
NEVER NAG
Nagging or making repeated statements on a particular issue is sure to wind your husband or wife up. Woman, your husband wants you to shut up and let him enjoy your company in peace.
Rule No. 2
SMILE & GIVE A WARM & LIVELY HUG + A KISS
Whether you are tired, cooking, feeding the kids or dogs/cats, on the phone to your parents, or doing any chore whatsoever, drop it, the minute your husband puts his 'kingly' leg through the door. This applies even if you came in half a minute before him.
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Your husband will feel loved, wanted, important and appreciated, just like a king. And his worries and stress will melt off his chest and shoulders as he looks forward to a relaxed time with you. Yeah, even if your husband walks in late - as late as 2a.m! Pray for grace.
Yes, this rule applies to men too. Give your wife a warm hug and a kiss the minute she steps in through the door, no matter how late. She will feel like a queen and treat you like a king.
Rule no. 3
FINANCIAL SENSIBILITY
This simply means manage what money you and your partner have at all times. It also means stop putting money making before your relationship or family. Are you still confused?
Okay. Are you are a nurse or a doctor? Wonderful, but must you work all the shifts under the sun? Remember, you are first, a wife or husband and next, a mother or father, before being a nurse or whatever else your profession is.
Get this simple fact straight.
But many women and men have misplaced priorities. They put their primary roles of husband, wife father & mother on the last rung of the ladder. Only to find out many years later their daughter is pregnant at fifteen and their son is on drugs at age thirteen. They will find out their swollen bank account is of little comfort.
Rule No. 4
SPEND TIME TOGETHER
Husbands and wives sometimes drift miles away from their partners - emotionally & physically. Because they never see each other anyway. Why? They are both too busy working or not talking or sharing.
Whatever happened to both of you finding a work pattern that suits the family?
My advice:
Spend quality time with your man or woman.
Quality time includes sitting on the sofa and watching TV together, sharing family meals together and calling each other on the phone.
I'm sure some women are furious with me now. Yes! I understand there are bills to pay, and a woman needs a sense of achievement, but at what price?
A man wants a woman who can work around the family. It is not a bad thing. It is because women make a BIG difference in the family, in the work place and in the society. Not just to spend the money on an expensive high street shopping until she drops dead.
Be sensible. Help your husband or wife manage your resources for the good of the family.
There are more rules on how to keep your man in the next post.
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Have a wonderful week.
Love
Stella
Flirty & Feisty Romance
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Thursday, 26 August 2010
Stop Nagging: 4 Ways to Ask #LoveAffair #Marriage
Welcome to Advice Bench!
Some men have asked me to write clearly on my blog that the number one reason they look outside their marriage is the consistent nagging from their once loving wives.
They have told me that when their wives start to nag, they just want to find a hole large enough to crawl into, so they can find perfect peace.
And usually, the search for peace ends up being in another woman's arms!
"Better it is to live in the wilderness than to stay with a nagging (quarrelsome) woman" ~ Prov. 21:19.
Women, do we agree?
My advice:
1. Quit Nagging
Nagging means being quarrelsome. When you ask in a commanding, aggressive or annoying tone, you are nagging.
When you constantly harass (nag), you cause your husband anxiety, worry and stress. To de-stress, he runs away from you.
You need to learn the art of asking to receive.
2. Pillow Talk
Learn to engage in the art of pillow talk.
Pillow talk means having intimate chat in bed, before or after sex. It is more effective because there is touching involved.
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Keep all important conversation and decision making till your heads hit the pillow.
During foreplay, in the middle of lovemaking or right after sex is when you put in major requests. That is what prostitutes and girlfriends do. They get married men to part with houses and cars. You can also get anything you want from your husband. But, you have to be of 'good behaviour'.
What stops married women from being so clever in getting their way? Wives, be wise.
3. Seduce Your Husband
If you want to ask your husband for a large sum of money, special gift for you, your children or family, or you want any favours from him, then SEDUCE him.
Take a shower, spray a lovely fragrance, wear sexy lingerie, prepare his favourite dish, massage his head and feet, whisper sweet nothing in his ear, handle him like a woman would and then ask for anything.
4. Pray
Remember to ask God to grant you constant favour in your husband's eyes.
Pray that your breasts will always satisfy him.
Pray that he would always love you all the days of your lives, to the point where he will be intoxicated with your love. Prov. 5:19.
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You are deeply appreciated.
Love,
Stella
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Wednesday, 4 August 2010
How Long Does it Take a Woman to Get Dressed to Go out With Her Husband?
Welcome to Flirty & Feisty Romance Blog!
Today, I'm chatting about; How long it takes a woman to get dressed to go out with her husband?
This is a niggling question many husbands are asking?
They wonder and murmur, 'when I'm going out with my wife, she starts to dress up half an hour before me, but by the time I'm done kitting up twenty minutes later, yes 20 minutes later, my wife is still applying make-up.'
When he asks his wife how much longer she needs, she says 'five more minutes'.
Half an hour later, she's still applying lipstick.
How much longer do you still need to get ready? he asks his wife. She answers, 'just a little more time. Another five minutes'.
By this time, Mr. Husband is totally exasperated, angry, hooting his horn, or tapping his feet in frustration.
Twenty minutes later (which amounts to 30 + 20 + 30 + 20mins = 1hr 40minutes in reality) she finally comes out dressed.
Personally, it takes me at least an hour and a half to get showered and dressed, so says my charming husband. He said to me yesterday, 'how long does it take you to get dressed my dear wife?' I laughed heartily, because I have to endure a lengthy speech every time we have to go out.
Now (four years after the original post) I have finally learnt the key. I now start getting washed and dressed long before we have to go out. So, I still spend the same time (an hour and a half) but my husband gets less exasperated. Lol!
My question is simple, how long does it take you as a woman to get showered and dressed compared to your husband?
Readers are welcome to share their experience on this topic.
This is a niggling question many husbands are asking?
They wonder and murmur, 'when I'm going out with my wife, she starts to dress up half an hour before me, but by the time I'm done kitting up twenty minutes later, yes 20 minutes later, my wife is still applying make-up.'
When he asks his wife how much longer she needs, she says 'five more minutes'.
Half an hour later, she's still applying lipstick.
How much longer do you still need to get ready? he asks his wife. She answers, 'just a little more time. Another five minutes'.
By this time, Mr. Husband is totally exasperated, angry, hooting his horn, or tapping his feet in frustration.
Twenty minutes later (which amounts to 30 + 20 + 30 + 20mins = 1hr 40minutes in reality) she finally comes out dressed.
Personally, it takes me at least an hour and a half to get showered and dressed, so says my charming husband. He said to me yesterday, 'how long does it take you to get dressed my dear wife?' I laughed heartily, because I have to endure a lengthy speech every time we have to go out.
Now (four years after the original post) I have finally learnt the key. I now start getting washed and dressed long before we have to go out. So, I still spend the same time (an hour and a half) but my husband gets less exasperated. Lol!
My question is simple, how long does it take you as a woman to get showered and dressed compared to your husband?
Readers are welcome to share their experience on this topic.
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Thank you for stopping by. Please leave comments so I know you popped in.
Have a wonderful week.
Love
Stella
Flirty & Feisty Romance
Why Do Men Experience #Mid-life Crisis?
Welcome to Flirty & Feisty Romance Blog!
On today's post, I want to table the topic; Why do men experience mid-life crisis?
This is an issue one very good friend of mine asked me to post on her behalf.
She was wondering why all of a sudden a fully grown man; matured, with many years of blissful marital life with his wife, begins to acquire new tastes.
The aging fella starts hooking up young girls, learning how to ride motor bike, wearing earrings or growing unusually long hair at age 45!
Is there a more suitable description, other than mid-life crisis?
Does anyone else have any definition for this syndrome that affects middle-aged men?
This issue is giving many wives unending grief.
Readers are welcome to share their experience on this topic.
This is an issue one very good friend of mine asked me to post on her behalf.
She was wondering why all of a sudden a fully grown man; matured, with many years of blissful marital life with his wife, begins to acquire new tastes.
Does anyone else have any definition for this syndrome that affects middle-aged men?
This issue is giving many wives unending grief.
Readers are welcome to share their experience on this topic.
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Have a wonderful week.
Love
Stella
Flirty & Feisty Romance
Monday, 19 July 2010
Why would a man cheat? #Infidelity #Affair
A warm welcome to Flirty & Feisty Romance Blog!
On today's run, women want to know why a man would cheat on his wife?
This is the million pound question every woman wants to find out.
I wish I could just wave a wand and every man would rush to my blog to leave one or two reasons why he (or his pal) would cheat on his wife - a woman he claims to love or care about.
Since that isn't the case, I guess I would rely on my experience and that of other women, and hope that the male folk will leave useful comments.
1. 'My wife isn't attractive or sexy anymore' is a common complaint. She wears sackcloths or paperbags now, rather than the clinging or skimpy clothes that caught my eye when I first met her.
2. 'She cares more about the kids'. So, he hops off to the girl next door, in the office, down the road, at the restaurant etc. ,who's been giving him the attention he desires.
3. 'My wife is always tired, when it comes to sex'. Excuses galore on a daily basis. It's either she has a headache, or she is too tired or already asleep.
4. 'She nags me to death!'
Nag, nag nag...non-stop. So I head off with my mates to have a cool beer and spend time chatting happily till my wife is asleep.
5. 'She is not submissive, stubborn & never listens'. I've given up. I now do what I like.
True or False?
I want to read your thoughts. Do you agree with the reasons?
Thank you for visiting. Please leave comments so I know you stopped by.
Love,
Stella
This is the million pound question every woman wants to find out.
I wish I could just wave a wand and every man would rush to my blog to leave one or two reasons why he (or his pal) would cheat on his wife - a woman he claims to love or care about.
Since that isn't the case, I guess I would rely on my experience and that of other women, and hope that the male folk will leave useful comments.
1. 'My wife isn't attractive or sexy anymore' is a common complaint. She wears sackcloths or paperbags now, rather than the clinging or skimpy clothes that caught my eye when I first met her.
2. 'She cares more about the kids'. So, he hops off to the girl next door, in the office, down the road, at the restaurant etc. ,who's been giving him the attention he desires.
3. 'My wife is always tired, when it comes to sex'. Excuses galore on a daily basis. It's either she has a headache, or she is too tired or already asleep.
4. 'She nags me to death!'
Nag, nag nag...non-stop. So I head off with my mates to have a cool beer and spend time chatting happily till my wife is asleep.
5. 'She is not submissive, stubborn & never listens'. I've given up. I now do what I like.
True or False?
I want to read your thoughts. Do you agree with the reasons?
Thank you for visiting. Please leave comments so I know you stopped by.
Love,
Stella
******
Flirty & Feisty Romance
Flirty & Feisty Romance
Our promise...is to deliver an intensely emotional experience you'll never forget.
Tuesday, 22 June 2010
Why would a woman cheat?
Welcome to Flirty & Feisty Romance Blog!
Now that we have listed the number of ways to spice up and add glitter to your relationship (see previous blogs), we can roll on to the painful but common problem of infidelity in a relationship.
Imagine being married for six years or more, and you have been so into each other.
You trust each other and don't expect that one of you will find fulfilment outside of the matrimonial home or bed.
And then one day, the scales fall from clogging your eyes and pronto! You discover your cherished and beloved one has been cheating...getting on with a colleague, a friend or even an enemy...for say a year?
Your reaction? Heartbreak, disappointment, hurt, self-assessment, anger, betrayal...and many more indescribable emotions. I know this is more rampant than we care to believe.
I will share three top reasons women have given for even thinking about cheating.
1. LACK of attention (alias lack of sex)
One reason a woman considers cheating is if she suffers consistent lack of attention or affection from her spouse. If she gets the attention from outside her matrimonial home after her repeated plea falls on her husband's deaf ears, she's tempted to fall for the 'nice and attentive' guy.
2. CHEATING spouse
A 'genuine' reason a woman gives for cheating is, if she knows or catches her dear husband cheating on her. Humph! She thinks to herself, I have been really stupid.
3. LACK of money
Another common reason women cheat is the pursuit of money. When she doesn't get money to take care of herself (especially if she's a full time house wife) from her husband, it is an indication he doesn't 'love' or 'care'.
CONSIDER THESE SCENARIOS
If Mr. Husband is a poor man, she tolerates for a while and after sometime, she may decide to take a walk to the greener grass on the other side.
However, if he's a rich fella, she assumes he's selfish and needs to be dealt with... and she sleeps around with other men!
And if Mr. Husband is a rich fella, business is his no. 1 priority. His friends take no.2 priority in his life and his numerous family members take no. 3 spot, mistresses take no 4 position, his wife may be no 5, if she is lucky.
WHAT HAPPENS NEXT?
Guess what Mrs. Wife does? After lamenting and crying genuine tears for years, she may explore other options.
She doesn't look too far out of her marriage for comfort, because Mr. Business-minded husband may suspect. Though he's hardly around, such men usually keep the women under 'lock and key'.
She seeks solace with her driver, or fitness instructor at the local gym or the personal staff around the house.
While Mr. Busy Husband is in the farthest continent milking foreign currency, she's busy being milked by her personal staff.
Work on your marriage... That's another topic entirely.
QUESTION
Readers are welcome to make comments on why spouses would stretch their necks to the 'grass' on the other side. Is it because it looks greener? or because it's different? or it's just tempting? What is it?
Please leave comments on this controversial topic. It would be highly appreciated.
Now that we have listed the number of ways to spice up and add glitter to your relationship (see previous blogs), we can roll on to the painful but common problem of infidelity in a relationship.
Imagine being married for six years or more, and you have been so into each other.
And then one day, the scales fall from clogging your eyes and pronto! You discover your cherished and beloved one has been cheating...getting on with a colleague, a friend or even an enemy...for say a year?
Your reaction? Heartbreak, disappointment, hurt, self-assessment, anger, betrayal...and many more indescribable emotions. I know this is more rampant than we care to believe.
I will share three top reasons women have given for even thinking about cheating.
1. LACK of attention (alias lack of sex)
2. CHEATING spouse
A 'genuine' reason a woman gives for cheating is, if she knows or catches her dear husband cheating on her. Humph! She thinks to herself, I have been really stupid.
3. LACK of money
CONSIDER THESE SCENARIOS
If Mr. Husband is a poor man, she tolerates for a while and after sometime, she may decide to take a walk to the greener grass on the other side.
However, if he's a rich fella, she assumes he's selfish and needs to be dealt with... and she sleeps around with other men!
And if Mr. Husband is a rich fella, business is his no. 1 priority. His friends take no.2 priority in his life and his numerous family members take no. 3 spot, mistresses take no 4 position, his wife may be no 5, if she is lucky.
WHAT HAPPENS NEXT?
Guess what Mrs. Wife does? After lamenting and crying genuine tears for years, she may explore other options.
She doesn't look too far out of her marriage for comfort, because Mr. Business-minded husband may suspect. Though he's hardly around, such men usually keep the women under 'lock and key'.
She seeks solace with her driver, or fitness instructor at the local gym or the personal staff around the house.
While Mr. Busy Husband is in the farthest continent milking foreign currency, she's busy being milked by her personal staff.
QUESTION
Readers are welcome to make comments on why spouses would stretch their necks to the 'grass' on the other side. Is it because it looks greener? or because it's different? or it's just tempting? What is it?
Please leave comments on this controversial topic. It would be highly appreciated.
Thank you for visiting.
******
Flirty & Feisty Romance
Flirty & Feisty Romance
Our promise...is to deliver an intensely emotional experience you'll never forget.
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