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Tuesday, 28 April 2015

#Brides From #Africa #CameroonianBride #TraditionalEngagement

Welcome to Brides From Africa!

It is great to be back with Brides From Africa. On today's ride, I have beautiful photos of brides from the West African country of Cameroon.

In my search for scoop, I stumbled across a traditional wedding inspired invitation. It is unique and lovely.

Invitation is courtesy of Artbecomeyou
In Cameroon, the traditional engagement starts when the groom approaches the bride's father to get his initial approval to court his daughter.

Once the two families meet, an engagement will be officially announced and the bride's father will decide on how much the marriage payment will be. It is paid as a sign of respect and good faith.
The groom pays a bride price to the bride's family. The bride price consists of 10 tins (250ml or 60 gallons) of palm oil, a barrel of meat, cash for bride price, as much firewood as the groom's friends can provide, and a married woman’s outfit.
The groom's family offers kola nut and alcoholic drinks to ask for the bride’s hand in marriage, as a mark of friendship and honour.

After the sharing the kola nut, the groom is asked to recognize and choose his beloved among other women. Salt is also presented by the groom to the bride's family as a symbol of friendship, loyalty, abundance and fertility.

After the groom identifies the bride, her father asks his daughter to share a glass of drink with the husband to be.


The couple is attired in Aoghu, particular to the North Westerner part of Cameroon
After the official wedding ceremony, the bride will return to her parents' home to be cleansed and covered with camwood, then she will officially be "handed over" to her husband.

I want to leave you with a popular Cameroonian proverb - Beauty is an empty calabash.

Find out more about Cameroonian traditional engagement on Africanweddingtraditions & Cameroonwedding.

Thank you for visiting. Please leave me a comment.

If you have bridal photos to share from your place, send it to me via email and I'll share it here and give you credit. I love romance and swooning over bride photos is my hobby.
 

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Thursday, 26 March 2015

#Brides From #Africa #EthiopianBride #EastAfrica

Welcome to Brides From Africa!

This edition of Brides of Africa features traditionally attired brides from Ethiopia in East Africa.

Ethiopia, is a land-locked country located in the Horn of Africa. It is bordered by Eritrea to the north and northeast, Djibouti and Somalia to the east, Sudan and South Sudan to the west, and Kenya to the south.
 
The traditional wedding begins with the ceremony called, Tilosh.

Tilosh is an event that usually takes place the night before the wedding. Selected members of the groom’s family, his groomsmen and best man - as messengers for the groom - go to the bride’s parents home with a suitcase full of gifts for the bride.


Upon arrival, they are received by the parents, relatives, and bridesmaids. The bride is not present during this event.

On arrival, they greet the parents and other elders in the home with a kiss on the knees as a sign of respect. Then, they stand in front of the hosts who demand to see the items inside the suitcases.

The best man does most of the talking. Before he takes out each item, he exaggerates with flowery words and phrases to make the item appear more expensive and rare.

In response, the bride’s family and bridesmaids deliberately belittle the value of each gift. In addition, while the best man presents a certain gift, a bridesmaid will sneak over and take an item from the suitcase such as a shoe, or an earring.

When the best man then presents the item and only has one shoe instead of a pair, the hosts ridicules the groom for only bringing one shoe or item. The groomsmen will respond by saying it was not their groom, but a jealous bridesmaid that did such mischief.

This entertaining and theatrical banter continues until the bridesmaids receive all the gifts. Afterwards, the family will bless the groom and grant permission to marry the bride and they all enjoy a traditional feast that might continue through the night.
                                                           
On the wedding day, the groom, attired in the traditional garb, along with his groomsmen make their way to the bride's house.

By the time the groom gets there, everybody in the bride's house meets them outside and welcomes them with traditional songs. The singers insist they won't allow them inside. The groom begs to make his way in. This is all part of an old custom to prevent the groom from entering until he pays his dowry.

The groom then walks to the bride and presents her with flowers. The bride excitedly accepts the flowers with a kiss, and they are escorted out of the house to their car by their friends and family.


Other guests follow the bride and groom in their own cars to the next ceremony of the day, which is the photo program, called Shirishir. It starts with a "road party". All the family members and friends trail their car from behind with flowers flowing out of their window while singing traditional wedding songs. 

 
The Melse is a traditional reception that occurs on the day after the wedding for close friends and family members and is hosted by the bride's family. The bride and groom wear traditional habesha clothes as well as a “Kaba” which is a traditional cape embellished with gold or silver trimmings.

The bridal party and guests also wear traditional habesha clothes. The bride and groom walk in with their bridal party and immediately begin dancing. Once the dancing stops, the food is blessed and the bridal party begins serving food and drinks and they are considered “hosts” of the Melse. After food, the dancing begins for hours.


The dancing is stopped for a naming ceremony called “Dabo Sim” where the groom's family gives the bride a name that she will be called by the groom's family going forward. The naming ceremony is lighthearted and often begins with the groom’s family and his groomsmen presenting a name that they know the bride’s family will not accept.

The bride’s family and bridesmaids will adamantly resist the names until the groom’s side presents an acceptable name. Once the name has been accepted, the bread or “Dabo” will be cut and passed out to the guests by the bridal party. Each guest has to recite the name before they are given a piece of bread. If they say the wrong name, they will not get a piece of bread.

After the Dabo Sim ceremony, the dancing continues into the night.

The final cultural wedding ends with kilkil - which means, getting together. Kilkil is an intimate event held a day after the Melse and is traditionally hosted by the Groom’s family. Close family members of the bride and groom gather to meet and mingle and get to know one another intimately. The entire bridal party hosts the guests. Kilkil gives the bride and the groom the opportunity to pay respects to their families and guests
Parents of the bride and groom congratulate the newlyweds, bless them and bid them goodbye.

Read more on Ethiopian culture from Milcah-Degefu & Habeshabrides.

Photos are courtesy of Yookos.com, Yoknyamdable & Nairaland.com.

Thank you for visiting. Please leave me a comment.

If you have bridal photos to share from your place, send it to me via email and I'll share it here and give you credit. I love romance and swooning over bride photos is my hobby.

 
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Thursday, 5 March 2015

#Brides from #Africa #GhanaianBride #WestAfrica

A warm welcome to Brides From Africa



This week, I have a line-up of stunning Ghanaian Brides for your entertainment.

The Republic of Ghana is located along the Gulf of Guinea and Atlantic Ocean, in West Africa. Ghana is bordered by the Ivory Coast in the west, Burkina Faso in the north, Togo in the east and the Gulf of Guinea and Atlantic Ocean in the south.

The Ghanaian traditional marriage involves the groom, accompanied by his family going to formally ask for the bride's hand in marriage in the presence of her family, friends and well wishers.

The ceremony begins with the "knocking" (kokooko) on the door ceremony. In the knocking ceremony, the groom, along with his father and some elder members of the family, visits the brides house to announce their marriage intentions. 

Often times, Kokooko is performed a week or two before the actual marriage ceremony. The knocking (kokooko) is derived from the Ghanaian tradition of a visitor knocking at the entrance of a house before entering.

For the knocking ceremony, the groom's family takes along two bottles of Schnapps (alcoholic drinks), some money and kola to present to the bride's family. When the drinks are presented, a designated spokesman from the groom's delegation formally asks the bride's family for permission to enter the house and announce their intentions. If the drinks are accepted, then it means permission has been granted to the visitors to state their intentions.

The spokes person then explains in the most lyrical language, that the groom, has seen a "beautiful flower" in the house of the bride's family that he desires and would like to "uproot" the flower, not steal, from its keeper.
They ask for the bride's hand in marriage and inquire about what is required in order to keep the flower. 

Once the intentions are announced, the bride's family may ask the groom and his family to come back at a later date.
If the bride's family is pleased with the background checks on the groom's family, they will send a list of  items to the groom and his family to provide before they can marry the bride.
This list is commonly made up of, but not limited to, the following

Dowry/or bride price - often an undisclosed sum of money
 
2  bottled drink of whisky or Gin

Money for the bride's father
 
1 bottle of expensive whisky & a piece of cloth

A pair of sandals and money for the bride of the mother

Jewellery for the bride

At least 6 pieces of traditional wax print cloth for the bride

Engagement ring

Engagement bible

Shoes, headpieces, other gifts for the bride

Drinks, money and food for the guests that will be present to witness the ceremony
 
Money for the brothers or male cousins (if bride has no brothers)
 
For the traditional wedding, on the set date, the groom and his family, along with invited guests show up early at the bride's house.

Elders from both families begin the marriage ceremony with a prayer and introductions. The groom's family begins by presenting the dowry and all the other items on the list .

Once everything has been presented to the bride's family, a decoy can be used to "tease" the groom. The groom is asked to verify if this is indeed his bride. Once he confirms, she is asked three times by her father if she agrees to marry the groom.
She is also asked if they should accept the dowry and the accompanying gifts from the groom's family. When she agrees, the groom slides the ring onto her fingers, kiss's and hugs her.
An elder presents a bible to both the groom and bride as a symbol of how important religion should be in their married life. Prayers are said and blessings are given.

The married couple is now congratulated and each elder in the room offers marriage advice to the new couple.
 Afterwards, there is a huge reception where food & drinks are served. There is lots of music and dancing till nightfall
Photos are courtesy of Allthingsammamama, Myjoyonline 

There is more on Ghanaian weddings here & Afrykaconnect.

Thank you for visiting. Please leave me a comment.

If you have bridal photos to share from your place, send it to me via email and I'll share it here and give you credit. I love romance and swooning over bride photos is my hobby.

Love
Stella
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Monday, 8 December 2014

#RomQuotesMonday39

Happy Monday!

On Romance Quotes Monday, I'm celebrating my 15th wedding anniversary. On December 4th 1999, I married the most gorgeous and loving man on earth. He proposed to me on our very first date!
Our 15yrs marriage road and bed have amazing memories for us and our two teenage children. 
To sweeten and deepen our love, my husband gave me a new engagement ring in Church yesterday, 7th  Dec. 
Wow!!! I felt like a brand new African Bride! 
Our priest blessed the ring. In front of our families and friends, my hubby slipped the most beautiful engagement ring on my fingers with the same words he used 15yrs ago.
The original engagement ring got damaged a couple of years ago.
I give God all the glory for our marriage, our love, families and friends.

These two romance quotes aptly describe our love.
RomQuote #1


RomQuote #2
Photo is courtesy of foto4quote
I wish you much love today and in the years ahead.

Thank you for stopping by. It would be sweet if you left comments, so I know you dropped in.

Best wishes,

Love
Stella
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