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Showing posts with label Anger Management. Show all posts
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Thursday, 21 December 2023

Singles & Married: How to Handle Your Partner 's Anger 5 Steps to Follow

 


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Guys, welcome back to my Blog. Today's topic; How to Handle Your Partner's Anger is culled from my YouTube channel, DearStellaTV. Click the link to watch the video if you prefer.



I'm directing this topic to all the Single People, others in Relationships and to Married Couples as well. 

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If you're Single, it's important you watch how someone you're interested in dating reacts when upset, and observe exactly how they respond when you annoy them. 

Is he, or she a loose cannon? Does he, or she destroy you with his, or her tongue? Is he, or she quick to hit out with the hand, or in a hurry to throw things? If so, this is a RED FLAG.

Single People, the last thing you want is to be trapped in any sort of relationship with someone who can't control his, or her Anger. Someone without the ability to cap their anger is a ticking time bomb waiting to explode on you.

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Is that the type of relationship you want? Do you want to be in a relationship with someone who has no self-control in taming his, or her rage? Guarding your peace of mind and, enjoying a joyful, loving Marriage with a matured individual should be what you pray to have.

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Just so you know, maturity and self-control have nothing to do with age.

On the other hand, if you're already married, or in a relationship with someone who has no idea how to control his, or her Anger, I've got 5 Practical Tips to help you cope with your partner's anger issues.

Anger in itself isn't evil because it's a powerful emotion that conveys how we feel about a situation, someone, or something said that hurts or triggers us.

Where Anger becomes a problem is when it's uncontrolled and it becomes, explosive, destructive and dangerous. Anger can lead to violence, hospitalization and even death in some cases.


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By the time Anger leads to Rage, say the husband pushes the wife too hard, and she hits her head against a sharp object in the house, bang!!! That tousle can have fatal consequences. 


It's important in your Relationship, or Marriage that you consider following these 5 Steps to handle your spouse's anger issues.



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Step 1: Reconcile with your husband, or wife after he, or she annoys or hurts you.
 

Step 2: Settle your quarrels quickly. Don't let it drag on for days, weeks and months. If you allow Anger fester, it can result in cracks in your relationship, or Marriage.

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Step 3: Pray for God to give you the grace to Forgive each other. When you're hurting, usually, you don't want to pray but that's when you need to RUN to the LORD in Prayer to heal your hurt.

Step 4: Forgive your spouse in advance. That means, be ready in your heart to Forgive your spouse before he, or she hurts you.


Step 5: When your spouse is in a good mood, encourage your partner to seek help. Suggest Anger Management Training to help them learn how to control their emotion.

It's my hope and prayer that you make Godly decisions for your lives and that you prosper in your Marriages.


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Wednesday, 13 May 2015

#Wives: When #Anger Hurts Your #Marriage


Welcome to Advice Bench!
I watched a TV programme recently in which a married woman yelled, insulted and kicked her husband out of their home because she heard he cheated on her. She was still nursing a one year old baby.

Later on, this woman started therapy, and she learnt a few truths about herself.
She made the following admissions; 

1. She was difficult to talk to.
2. She didn't like to hear  the truth.
3. She had anger management problems.
4. She agreed her marriage had problems for sometime, but she just pushed the issues aside. 5. She acknowledged she had being subtly rejecting her husband's flirtatious advances.

After I watched the show, I connected the story with reality. There are marriages where the women run their foul mouth to overwhelming proportions, the men are no where to be found. I'm not saying the women's anger were the only problems. But it was a BIG part of the problem.

So today, I want to share my views with you on how a woman's anger can hurt her marriage.

You walk outside your marriage vows when you scream and rant at the man you vowed to honour and cherish.

Many women are hurting their marriages with bouts of uncontrollable temper tantrums.

Yes, you are hurt, angry and frustrated. In so many instances, you have every right to be. For example, you just found out your husband is having an affair, or he has taken another loan without your knowledge, or he is too busy to care about you or the children and so on.

Then you decide to take the following actions;
1. To make him feel some of the pain and hurt you feel, you lash out at him.

2. You yell and strip him of every ounce of dignity. Men have huge ego. When you trample on his pride, get ready to live with his evil side.

3. You insult him, irrespective of who is listening; your kids, family members, neighbours or friends.

4. If you live abroad, you go as far as kicking him out of the house for a day, two or years. In Africa, you don't have the luxury of evicting your husband. You will have your husband, his family and the African society to answer to.

I ask

Wow! Tell me, in all the instances where you have let out your anger so viciously, how did it all end? Did you achieve your goal? I guess that depends on what your goal was in the first place.

When did anyone ever achieve a brilliant result from yelling at their husbands?

Even if you win your husband back in a make up sex, you have cracked a few eggs that you can never find whole again.

What are the effects?

1. In your anger, you would have said so many hurtful words that have a lasting damage on your husband's psyche even after you make up.

2. The children are emotionally distraught with dad and mum's scary yelling.

3. When this behaviour becomes a pattern, one day, your husband is going to take a walk and not look back. And you are going to be left wondering how your marriage went berserk.
Why you need not yell

1. No matter what your husband's offense is, you can control your rage. There are times when silence is a more deadly weapon to achieve your aim.


Remember - Two wrongs don't make a right.

2. It takes two to fight.

3. If you open your mouth to insult your husband, you are unwise. In other words, among fools, you are the leader of the pack!

So if your aim is to be a single mum, don't waste your time reading further. Come on, read on.

What you can do differently

1. It is time to calm down when you want to yell at your husband. He is not your child, even if you think he acts like one.

2. Take a walk to clear your head.
 
3. Think through what you want to say. Ask yourself, what do I want to achieve? If you want your husband to quit being a mess, you need a wise approach. Yelling is not going to achieve anything good.

4. You need to learn to talk to him like the matured woman you are, and not fly off the handle at the drop of a hat.

5. You might even decide not to talk when you are so angry. Let him stew in his guilt. Talk when he is not prepared to go on the defensive. I use this tip and it works for me. *wink*

Quit shrieking, and start talking with a clear head.

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You remain unforgettable.
 
Have a fabulous day.
 
Love 
Stella 
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