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Thursday, 22 March 2018

Are You Dealing With Stress in Your Marriage -2 #Staymarried

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A few weeks ago, I blogged about what you can do to deal with stress. Click here to read the post.

Today, I want to share popular solutions to handling stress that you must avoid.

Avoiding these available steps is for your own good, not mine. I assume you want a long-term solution, not an answer that leads you to more difficult problems or even ruin your health and life.

So when you are stressed by your husband, wife, children, work, friends, colleagues or family in general,

AVOID THESE ACTIONS

1. Drinking/Alcohol Abuse

The organs (kidney, liver, heart and brain) in your body are important, don't poison them.

You will end up sick or in rehabilitation and your wife or husband might turn her or his back on you.

2. Smoking packets of cigarettes or cigars

If you don't need your lungs, donate them to people who want to stay healthy. Quit smoking, if you are a smoker. If you are not, don't START. Smoking causes diseases in nearly every organ of the body. If you don't believe me, read more here.

Lung cancer or its close relative maybe knocking on your body.

3. Drug Abuse

Drug abuse affects the body and the mind. It causes distorted thoughts and emotions. Read more here.

You might end up penniless, homeless and lose everyone you love.

4. Experimenting with pills
These pills supposedly makes you forget your problems. Ha! That's a huge lie. When the effect of the pills wear off, your problems will be waiting for you where you abandoned them.

5. Running away

Do you run away and hope the stress and problems all go away too? The reality is that your problems won't go anywhere except you deal with them.

6. Lying

Lies have short legs. Have you not seen or heard that every lie will be discovered, anyway? You lose trust and your relationship might not survive your strings of lies.

WHAT TO DO INSTEAD

Face your problems. Deal with them.

Remember, whether you are rich or poor, young or old, as long as you are human, you will go through stress.

Many people handle stress differently. Some people bottle things inside, hiding how they really feel from the world. While others take out their stress on their family and friends.

Instead of taking out your stress on your wife or husband, you can now do the following. Find out what you can do here.

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Tuesday, 16 May 2017

Are You Struggling with #Addiction in Your #Marriage #Abuse

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This week on Advice Bench, we have Caleb Anderson - a Guest Blogger from Dallas, US - here to share useful tips on drug/alcohol addiction and the impact on marriage.

Have you or your partner been struggling with substance abuse and addiction? If you’ve been concerned about the effects of addiction on your marriage (as well as on any children or other family members), you’re not alone.

In the book The Body Keeps the Score, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk says 1 in 4 Americans grew up with alcoholics, while a shocking 1 in 3 couples have engaged in physical violence.

Danielle LaPorte, author of White Hot Truth, bluntly adds: “Let’s be really clear: we are a society that is overmedicated [and] addicted.”

Although millions of spouses in America are living with an addicted loved one, addiction is not just a problem for American marriages and relationships. It is a global epidemic. Illicit drug use damages families around the world, and the impact of tobacco and alcohol abuse is even more harmful globally, according to the US National Library of Medicine.

Nobody wants to become another statistic. If you’re reading this, you’ve probably survived a lot of trauma and pain due to addiction. You love your spouse but you need to find ways to save your marriage.

How to Cope

How can you find addiction recovery help for yourself and/or your spouse?

1. Start by working with trained professionals who deal with these types of complex issues everyday. A trained marriage counselor or a therapist who specializes in addiction recovery can help married couples work through addiction and commonly-associated issues, such as fraud, infidelity or codependence.

2. Both partners in the relationship need to participate in a twelve-step program. Yes, this includes the partner who is not addicted.

Al-Anon and Nar-Anon are two free, confidential support groups for families, friends and loved ones of those who are addicted to drugs and/or alcohol. Even if you are unable to convince your spouse to attend a twelve step program, it is important that you attend these meetings for yourself. Although you love your partner, you do not want to be codependent or further enable his or her addiction. The twelve step program will help you break the cycle, find a supportive sponsor, and focus on healing with self care and healthy boundaries.

3. Another big piece of healing your marriage or relationship from addiction is helping your loved one get into addiction treatment. Unfortunately, this isn’t always easy - especially if the addicted loved one is in denial about his or her addiction, or simply isn’t ready for treatment. For that reason, you should focus on getting him or her into addiction recovery only after you have started a twelve step program for codependence as mentioned above. Just like when the flight attendants tell you to secure your own oxygen mask before helping others, you must take care of your own healing before you’ll be properly equipped to help your loved one seek treatment.

4. Once you’ve started a codependence recovery program (and hopefully have also started couples counseling) you can begin breaking your previous unhealthy patterns which helped enable the addiction. At that point, you can help your loved one get into recovery and you will be better equipped to support him or her through this difficult transition.

5. Over time, the wounds of the past may heal and you might find that you are able to move forward from the trauma of the addiction. Know that it is common for addicts to experience changes in temperament and personality during the addiction recovery process, and this can be a difficult time for their loved ones.

If, however, your spouse refuses treatment or becomes intolerable or abusive during recovery, it might be best to consider separation. The emotional ups and downs of addiction can damage relationships irreparably, and your relationship will probably change. Regardless of whether you choose to stay or to separate, you’ll know that you’ve tried your best and did everything you could have done to love and support your partner during this journey.