Thursday, 26 March 2015

#Brides From #Africa #EthiopianBride #EastAfrica

Welcome to Brides From Africa!

This edition of Brides of Africa features traditionally attired brides from Ethiopia in East Africa.

Ethiopia, is a land-locked country located in the Horn of Africa. It is bordered by Eritrea to the north and northeast, Djibouti and Somalia to the east, Sudan and South Sudan to the west, and Kenya to the south.
The traditional wedding begins with the ceremony called, Tilosh.

Tilosh is an event that usually takes place the night before the wedding. Selected members of the groom’s family, his groomsmen and best man - as messengers for the groom - go to the bride’s parents home with a suitcase full of gifts for the bride.

Upon arrival, they are received by the parents, relatives, and bridesmaids. The bride is not present during this event.

On arrival, they greet the parents and other elders in the home with a kiss on the knees as a sign of respect. Then, they stand in front of the hosts who demand to see the items inside the suitcases.

The best man does most of the talking. Before he takes out each item, he exaggerates with flowery words and phrases to make the item appear more expensive and rare.

In response, the bride’s family and bridesmaids deliberately belittle the value of each gift. In addition, while the best man presents a certain gift, a bridesmaid will sneak over and take an item from the suitcase such as a shoe, or an earring.

When the best man then presents the item and only has one shoe instead of a pair, the hosts ridicules the groom for only bringing one shoe or item. The groomsmen will respond by saying it was not their groom, but a jealous bridesmaid that did such mischief.

This entertaining and theatrical banter continues until the bridesmaids receive all the gifts. Afterwards, the family will bless the groom and grant permission to marry the bride and they all enjoy a traditional feast that might continue through the night.
On the wedding day, the groom, attired in the traditional garb, along with his groomsmen make their way to the bride's house.

By the time the groom gets there, everybody in the bride's house meets them outside and welcomes them with traditional songs. The singers insist they won't allow them inside. The groom begs to make his way in. This is all part of an old custom to prevent the groom from entering until he pays his dowry.

The groom then walks to the bride and presents her with flowers. The bride excitedly accepts the flowers with a kiss, and they are escorted out of the house to their car by their friends and family.

Other guests follow the bride and groom in their own cars to the next ceremony of the day, which is the photo program, called Shirishir. It starts with a "road party". All the family members and friends trail their car from behind with flowers flowing out of their window while singing traditional wedding songs. 

The Melse is a traditional reception that occurs on the day after the wedding for close friends and family members and is hosted by the bride's family. The bride and groom wear traditional habesha clothes as well as a “Kaba” which is a traditional cape embellished with gold or silver trimmings.

The bridal party and guests also wear traditional habesha clothes. The bride and groom walk in with their bridal party and immediately begin dancing. Once the dancing stops, the food is blessed and the bridal party begins serving food and drinks and they are considered “hosts” of the Melse. After food, the dancing begins for hours.

The dancing is stopped for a naming ceremony called “Dabo Sim” where the groom's family gives the bride a name that she will be called by the groom's family going forward. The naming ceremony is lighthearted and often begins with the groom’s family and his groomsmen presenting a name that they know the bride’s family will not accept.

The bride’s family and bridesmaids will adamantly resist the names until the groom’s side presents an acceptable name. Once the name has been accepted, the bread or “Dabo” will be cut and passed out to the guests by the bridal party. Each guest has to recite the name before they are given a piece of bread. If they say the wrong name, they will not get a piece of bread.

After the Dabo Sim ceremony, the dancing continues into the night.

The final cultural wedding ends with kilkil - which means, getting together. Kilkil is an intimate event held a day after the Melse and is traditionally hosted by the Groom’s family. Close family members of the bride and groom gather to meet and mingle and get to know one another intimately. The entire bridal party hosts the guests. Kilkil gives the bride and the groom the opportunity to pay respects to their families and guests
Parents of the bride and groom congratulate the newlyweds, bless them and bid them goodbye.

Read more on Ethiopian culture from Milcah-Degefu & Habeshabrides.

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Tuesday, 24 March 2015

The #Woman in #Marriage - The Forgiving Woman #MarriedWomen

Welcome to a new series titled, The Woman in Marriage!

I was recently invited to speak to a group of married women during their Mother's Day Symposium.

Based on their response, I have decided to share the presentation in a seven-series post.


Marriage is the bedrock of any society and God is the Author of Marriage. Jesus and his mother were in attendance at the wedding in Cana of Galilee where He turned water into wine. God is still at work in marriages today.

The marriage story begins when a man finds a wife, described as a good thing and he obtains favour from the Lord, Prov 18:22. The woman in marriage is chosen by her husband to be his constant companion, his friend, to be his loyal helper, the mother of his children, the keeper of his home and so much more.
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The journey for the woman in marriage begins with her marital vows. For example, almost sixteen years ago, I took the following vows; “I Stella, take you Augustine to be my wedded husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, from this day forward until death do us part.” I’m sure you took your marital vows too.

And so, the woman in marriage begins her journey with her husband and her God. She knows that a threefold cord is not easily broken. Eph 4:12. Along the way, other people join her on this journey of faith to the unknown. Her in-laws travel along, the Lord blesses her with children, and her family are part of the journey, so are her friends, enemies and the society. There is no end and no graduation until death.

On this Godly journey, she comes across many surprises – good and bad. The woman in marriage is equipped for what life throws at her, through God’s grace and guidance.

In the beginning, God gave Eve to Adam and asked them to till the Garden of Eden.

And so it is for you and for me. Once we get married, we are called by God to join our husbands to TILL THE MARRIAGE GARDEN.
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If you own a garden and you have ever planted seeds, you know that the seed dies first, and it faces many adversities such as rain, frost, snow, pests, birds and even human footsteps. But through these challenges, some seeds survive and grow into strong trees that provide rest places for the birds of the air and for humans, away from the heat of the sun. The fertile tree bears abundant fruits to feed countless people and animals. But other seeds fall aside because of the harsh conditions. And so it is for marriages.

So, is your marriage fruitful? Do people come to you when they have problems?

The woman in  marriage gets married because she believes that two are better than one because they have a better reward for their labour. Eph 4:9.

Throughout this series, I’m going to share with you 7 attributes of the woman in marriage.

1.      The Forgiving (Unforgiving) Woman

2.      The Praying (Un-requesting) Woman

3.      The Virtuous (Unrighteous) Woman

4.      The Wise (Unwise) Woman

5.      The Submissive (disobedient) Woman

6.      The Faithful (Unfaithful) Woman

7.      The Patient (Impatient) Woman

But today, I will discuss the forgiving and the unforgiving woman.

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1. (a) The Forgiving Woman

(i) What is Forgiveness?

Forgiveness means to pardon, to show mercy, to tolerate and to understand. It means you release feelings of resentment and vengeance.

The woman in marriage is full of forgiveness because she knows her enemies. The enemy is not your husband, in-laws or friends. Your enemies are the powers of darkness that we wrestle against (Eph 6:12) and our flesh that seek to please itself. Rom 8:8. The woman in marriage does not seek vengeance because she fears God and trusts the Lord when he says, vengeance is mine, I will repay. Rom 12:19.

(ii) Ask yourself when do I need to forgive?

·         You need to forgive when you are overcome by feelings of pain, anger, bitterness and resentment.

·         When your chest tightens at the sound of their voice.

·         When you cringe at their presence or voice.

·         Or when your flesh crawls when you are in contact.

When the woman in marriage experiences any of these signs, she runs to the altar of forgiveness.

(iii) Why do I need to forgive?

·         The Lord already paid the penalty for their sin even before the sin was committed.

·         You need to forgive others for your sins to be forgiven. Mt 6:12. Search yourself first! We are all humans and make mistakes. The woman in marriage knows that if she offends, she wants to be forgiven without drama or humiliation. So she willingly offers forgiveness.

·         You don’t let the sun go down on your anger. Eph 4:26.

(iv) What are the signs that I have forgiven the offender?

·         When you have set aside the anger and bitterness, as the east is far from the west.

·         And you never use the offense against the offender.

·         You never bring up the offense.

1. (b) The Forgiving Woman – Mary, Mother of Jesus

We have an example in Mary, the mother of our Lord Jesus Christ who watched her son been crucified by the Jews. On Pentecost day, those same Jews were converted just like she was too. Mary and the others became members of the Jerusalem Church (John 19: 25-27, Acts 1:14, Acts 2). My question to you is, what sin has your husband, children, in-laws, family committed that you can’t forgive?

The woman in marriage learns to forgive all hurt knowing that Christ has paid the price.

1. (c) The Unforgiving Woman – Zeresh, Haman’s wife - Esther 5 - 8

King Ahasuerus promoted Haman to be his second in command and the king commanded everyone to bow down to Haman. Mordecai was a Jew and a foreigner in Shushan, and he refused to bow down to Haman. As a result, Haman took offence, plotted to crush the Jews and reported the matter to his beloved wife, Zeresh and to his friends.
Listen to his wife’s response; “Let a gallows be made, fifty cubits high and in the morning, suggest to the king that Mordecai be hanged on it; then go merrily with the king to the banquet.” Est 5:14.

Her response pleased Haman. By her words, Zeresh blew up her husband’s fury. Eventually, it was her husband who got hanged in the same gallows. And she and her household were handed over to Queen Esther as subjects and Esther in turn, handed them over to Mordecai to oversee. Est 8.

Dear woman, if your husband is in a position of power, when he reports a matter to you concerning anybody, especially those of the household of faith, do not advise him to plot evil against others, so that you don’t bring destruction to you and your family.
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The series continues next week Tuesday with The Praying Woman. Thank you for visiting.

You can listen to the presentation by clicking; The Woman in Marriage Video

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Have a beautiful week with your loved one.

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Monday, 23 March 2015

#Romance #Quotes #Monday 54

Welcome to Romance Quotes Monday!
Another week beckons. I hope you had a lovely weekend.

Every Monday, I share a few romance quotes to awaken sweet memories about the one you love.

Today, I have three flirty picture quotes to stir up the heat in your thoughts.

RomQuote #1

RomQuote #2

RomQuote #3

If you have favourite Romance Quotes, Poems, Lyrics, Texts or Pictures you want me to publish on Romance Quotes Monday, feel free to send them to me via email.

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You remain unforgettable.
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Friday, 20 March 2015

Bookshowcase:Hong Kong Heat by Raven McAllan #NewRelease #ContemporaryRomance

Welcome to Bookshowcase!

Author Raven McAllan presents her new release, HONG KONG HEAT.

Enjoy the series of teasers and the exciting excerpt.

Hong Kong Heat by +Raven McAllan 
Genre: Erotic Romance, Contemporary
Debra Scotburn never thought of herself as a cougar, until she fell in lust at first sight with a much younger man.
Daniel Van Meister, a trouble-shooter for the Simply Five Star Hotel chain doesn't do commitment, until the older, curvy, vivacious brunette robs him off his ability to control a certain body part.
Unable to keep their hands off each other, they embark on a passion-filled holiday fling. Surely that is all it can ever be? Daniel's work takes him all around the world at a moment's notice, and Debra is on the last leg of her middle-aged-crisis induced gap year.
When misunderstandings tear them apart, can they both admit their love and find the trust needed to make this more than just a fling?
Available for early download via Totally Bound
Out on general release on eBook and Print: March 27th


"You're trespassing. You shouldn't be up here at night."
She stared up at him and grinned. The moon appeared from behind a cloud and his pulse jumped like a flea in a circus. It was her. His mystery lady.
“So I am, or should that be am not?” She swirled her arms and the moonlight caught the ripples and sent tiny moonbeams dancing over the surface of the pool. “Which
means unless you’re the night watchman…?” Her voice trailed off mid sentence, on a querying note.
Braam shook his head.
“Then neither should you. So why don’t you join me? Or is jogging the only exercise you do?” She tilted her head to one side and swam in lazy circles around the island in the centre of the pool.
Does she know there’s innuendo in that statement?

“Come on, live dangerously. You know you shouldn’t swim alone at night.” She laughed.
“So in actual fact, we’ll be helping each other.”
Why not? Braam pushed the sides of his trousers apart and kicked them off his legs with scant care to creases. The suit needed to go to the cleaners anyway.
An over anxious sous chef had made sure of that when Braam had checked the buffet earlier.
He left his boxers on—after all there was such a thing as over-familiarity—and dived in.

The water closed over his head and he pushed to the surface. It was like swimming in a Jacuzzi without the bubbles. The warmth surrounded him as he swam towards the woman leaning against the edge of the pool with her arms stretched out to hold her in place.
“So, hello, Ms Intruder. We meet again.” He trod water and moved his arms and hands to stay in front of her and not move into her personal space. As much as he’d have liked to crowd her, demand who she was and why she was there, he knew better.
“It seems we do. Nothing more mysterious than the ways of the world, eh?” She chuckled and splashed water with her legs. “Is this where I say fancy meeting you here? Or we must quit meeting like this, people will talk?”
There was no doubt about that, especially if the night manager turned the security cameras on. Braam angled his body then swam around the island so that if that did happen, his face wouldn’t be seen. There was one spot where the cameras didn’t reach, but was visible to the lifeguards when they were on duty. As he hoped, the lady swam after him, until they reached what he termed the safe area.
“Are we playing tag?” Her voice was husky and it lifted his libido and his cock by several notches. In fact, his cock was pressing against his boxers and even the water couldn’t   come to his aid so he didn't get harder by the minute. This woman intrigued him.
“I can think of better things to play.”
Her eyes widened and the laugh she gave went straight to his dick and hinted at all things erotic.
“Such as? Ludo? Scrabble, or, I know, Hotel?” She ran her tongue around her lips in an unconscious invitation to plunder and Braam was hard pressed not to groan.
“You show me yours and I’ll show you mine…” Braam paused. “Hotel, I mean, what else?”
She giggled. It wasn’t the silly sound a young girl would make, but a deep, sexy noise. “How about Kiss Chase?”
I'm growing old disgracefully and loving it. Dh and I live on the edge of a Scottish  forest, and rattle around in a house much too big for us.

Our kids have grown up and flown the nest, but roll back up when they want to take a deep breath and smell the daisies so
to speak. I write in my study, which overlooks the
garden and the lane. I'm often seen procrastinating, by checking out the wild life, looking—only looking—at the ironing basket and assuring tourists that indeed, I'm not the bed and breakfast. That would mean cooking fried eggs
without breaking the yolks, and disturbing the dust bunnies as they procreate under the beds. Not to be thought of.
Being able to do what I love, and knowing people get pleasure from my writing is fantastic. Long may it last.
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You remain unforgettable.
Have a fabulous day.
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