Wednesday, 29 March 2017

Are You Lonely by Lucy Adams #Dating #Love

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Lucy discusses the Common Reasons and How to Change Your Mind set to Find Your Beloved.

Lucy Adams is a blogger, currently working at BuzzEssay.

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Loneliness is a kind of disease that, unfortunately, can’t be treated with any of the existing drugs. Someone tries to get rid of loneliness by breaking bad; someone looks for the reasons listed in this article…

If you’re unhappy for one of the reasons below and want to avoid destructive temptations, you’re lucky! After reading, you’ll be able to get rid of oppressive feelings and start a new, promising life!

#1 No Self-Love

A person who hates oneself is unlikely to cause the interest of others due to surly appearance, lack of opinion, and doubts in the fact that someone can love him/her just like that.

Sometimes this self-perception arises from the complexes concerning the appearance, intelligence, social status, as well as due to psychological traumas in the childhood. Another reason may be a failure in relationships with people.

How to recover:

Every coin has two sides. Write down all your positive qualities, and put them in a prominent place. Do not forget that ideal people do have some bad habits or traits of character! Moreover, these "shortcomings" expresses is a manifestation of the personality.

Find out the areas in which you are successful and proceed from these data (for example, you’re extremely bad at cooking but are perfectly versed in classical music). Get rid of uncertainty, take your strengths and weaknesses as they are, and gradually move towards the harmony between what’s inside and outside.

#2 False Expectations

Almost everyone has an idea of the ideal partner, a stereotype that greatly interferes with the relationship building.

Firstly, overstated expectations affect the adequate perception of a person.
Secondly, they increase the risk of finding a wrong partner as there is a considerable difference between what we want and what we need.

How to recover:

Pay attention to each of the "potential partners," giving each of them a chance. Do not focus on the search for "ideal," but strive to become better and stronger with every passing day. Do not despair if the partner who you love is leaving you! In no case, that means you won’t be able to find someone else.

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#3 The False Image

Trying to attract attention, a person may create a false image of who he/she really is, masking one’s disadvantages. Often the problem stems from a lack of self-love. If your image is radically at odds with the internal content, you may get acquainted with the wrong people.

Imagine yourself is a book: if a cover of a detective story hides the scientific and technical dictionary, the reader will be disappointed and will not read until the end while the one who was looking for the "dictionary" will just pass by, not even noticing you.

How to recover:

Work on your image, self-develop, but don’t get into someone else's skin. Pick up clothes, hair style and behavior that will improve and develop your image, not changing it fundamentally.

#4 Appearance and Demeanor

Physical love is not the main thing: most likely, you’ve met a lot of couples in which one partner was more attractive. However, that doesn’t mean you have the right to justify laziness by the banality "Every Jack has his Jill." Arrogance, anger and envy push people away from you.

How to recover:

You do not have to stick to the latest fashion trends or daily do expensive hairstyle, but there are a few rules to comply with:

Dress neatly and cleanly.
Pick up things that suit you. If you can’t create your image by yourself, take an advice of stylists.
Avoid vulgarity in clothes. At the same time, don’t make your clothes camouflage – it should rather emphasize your advantages than hide you from the outside world.
Make sure that your make-up and manicure look good.
Take care of your skin and shape.

As for the behavior, try to smile and think positively – this will change your facial expression, gestures, and even gait.

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#5 Fear and Unwillingness

It happens that a person does want to be with someone for the reason that "the time has come," but inwardly is not yet ready to open his heart and soul. The reason for that may be either lack of time or fears along with an inappropriate internal state.

How to recover:

If you are afraid of dating someone, take the following exercise:

Write down in a column all the possible positive (for example, support) and negative (fear of betrayal, for instance) consequences of relationships. You will see that the pros will outweigh!

If the origins of your unwillingness lie in the excessive interest in work or hobbies, try to step back from them to free some time to search for a loved one.

#6 Lack of Initiative

Many believe in fate, and that’s why they can relax and do nothing. You might tend to think that taking the initiative is the duty of a potential partner. Alas, this is not true for building relationships – both partners should take steps towards each other.

How to recover:

Look for opportunities and use them. If you like someone, act: start a talk, smile, joke…finally, do everything you can if you’re really interested in showing your attitude towards the potential loved one. Do not refuse your friends be your matchmakers. At last, there are a lot of dating sites that you can use to find your beloved.

Loneliness is not a death sentence. Consider the absence of the relationship as an opportunity for self-improvement. Before looking for someone, find yourself!

LUCY's BIO

Lucy Adams is a pen wizard from buzzessay, a term paper service. She’s a generalist, and that’s why she almost never refuses to cover intriguing topics on psychology, business, self-development, education, etc. Lucy is an open-hearted and responsive blogger who’s waiting for your list of topics. Amazingly, guest posts are free-of-charge!

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