ARMED ROBBERY - A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE!!!

Where do I begin? For weeks after I attended my daughter's school perfomance at Catford Broadway Theatre on the Untold Stories about the Holocaust (January 2011), I became uneasy I asked myself this question;

What gives anyone the right to hold a gun to another's back, threatening to end his life?

Some would say frustration, poverty, betrayal by society, corruption by leaders trusted with public funds 'stealing' the pot for their great grand children etc.

Whatever the reason, is it justifiable for anyone to hold a bunch of innocent passengers and families hostage, raping, killing, maiming, assaulting and bleeding them dry?

I've decided to write this personal experience in four parts.
This is my first brush with the mask wearing, gun-tooting men of the underworld.

1998; It was my younger sister's introduction. That is, my younger sister was getting married, but her in-laws had to come over to introduce themselves to my family. My parents live in the ancient city of Benin City, Edo State, Nigeria. I worked and lived in Lagos, Nigeria. A cosmopolitan, boisterous, jam-packed city, very much like London.

The journey was at least over three hours, no matter what brand of car you're driving. My sister had insisted I'd to be in attendance. After all, she's my best friend. At that time, I worked for a multinational - Cadbury!!! It was a regular Friday. Work was hectic, with meetings and deadlines... I hate travelling by road. And I also hate travelling by road at night!!!

Just when I wanted to make a dash for my over three hour journey, my director called me and asked to see me. How could I tell him I had an impending journey? Finally, after checking my wristwatch for the one millionth time, I embarked on this ill-fated journey, with the knowledge that my younger sister would be dissapointed if I appeared on the morning of the event (the next day, Saturday).

Pushing my phobia of road journey and late night travel aside, I hopped on the commercial bus plying the Lagos-Benin route...

The full story of the bullet-ridden, fear instilling, mind boggling armed robbery attack unfolds here...

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HOW TO TALK TO YOUR SPOUSE II

Yes, so we continue our topic on 'How To Talk To Your Spouse'.
Now consider this scenario; You're not in the mood to speak to your spouse for a thousand and one reasons e.g. You're upset with him because you don't think he or she is doing enough to help with house chores, works too hard, isn't providing enough etc. While you're seething with annoyance, your spouse, unaware of your mood, begins to chat excitedly about their favourite topic; football, work, recent shopping experience etc. And you sit there reading a book you're not interested in or keep your eyes glued to television, totally ignoring your partner. Or you may murmur, 'Hmmm...eh...oh...' as a standard response. Eventually, your spouse may realize that you're not in the mood to chat. And you think in your heart, 'Ahhh, finally, he's understood that am not interested in speaking...'

As a spouse who has been 'turned down' by his or her uninterested spouse, I think you should seek to find out what is eating your spouse up. A good question will be, 'Hey babe! (even if she is 40yrs old!!! Women love to feel girlish!) why are you upset?' Her response maybe silence at first. But if you pay her adequate attention, move closer, give her a peck on the cheek or just simply sit beside her and run your fingers along her thighs, her anger will come tumbling out in a rush of words... And there, you can talk through it and resolve it.

Th same formula works with handling your grumpy or moody husband. What he desires is your undivided attention, prodding, loving and treating him like the baby he is!!!

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Jerking suddenly, Tricia turned to look at the door and behold, there stood a stunning blond lady. She was coiffed in designer clothes no doubt. She was wearing a thick, brown fur coat. 

   

Where on earth did she come from? Canada or Moscow…?

  

   The blond lady had stunning blue eyes, that were narrowing at Tricia now as she screamed.

  

   ‘Who the hell are you and what are you doing in my fiancé’s house?’ she looked at Tricia from head to toe and must have decided she was no match for her. ‘By the way, where is Presky?’ she asked confrontationally.

   Tricia remained quiet. So Presky had a fiancée? And he was calling her ‘his baby’, ‘my lady’, and all manner of meaningless names.

   Tricia felt her heart aching all over again. She’d known it was too good to be true…to meet a handsome dude that was single and searching. But she’d ignored her gut instincts.

   She jerked again as the blond took two steps further into the living room, and shouted at the top of her earsplitting voice. ‘Are you deaf? I asked you where Presky was.’ When she didn’t receive any response from Tricia, she was enraged.

   ‘Listen to me, I have closed my eyes. Before I open them, I want you to take your lousy, plain self out of this house and never return, gold digger!’ with that outburst, the fair-haired lady stormed into Presky’s bedroom. Tricia heard her throwing things angrily.

   Tricia sat glued to the chair, amazed at how rotten words could tumble out so comfortably, from a lady’s mouth – a designer attired blond!

   She came back into the living room, looking like she was mistress of the house. When she saw that Tricia was still sitting and hadn’t moved, she stormed across the living area, towards the kitchen.

   She came back and as quick as lightning, Tricia felt the chill, rather than saw the cold water being poured over her face and neck. The aggressive blond witch had just tossed a glass of cold water at her!

   Tricia was too shocked at the attack to react. She just clutched at the wet top, and looked at the victorious expression on her fair-haired foe’s face as the door of the hallway flew open and Presky walked into the living room sweating from his exercise.

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HOW TO TALK TO YOUR SPOUSE

It's interesting to discuss how to communicate with the one person you should be close to. Communication is such a chunky word, I'd prefer to tag it 'talking' to your spouse.

Talking is a two-way street. It involves dialoguing. That's speaking and receiving response. Be mindful that it might not always be a desirable response.

To start with, we'll lay down WHAT TO TALK ABOUT.

John and Pat sat on their fancy sofa, watching TV. No words were spoken between them for ten minutes! The minutes continued ticking away...still no words were uttered.

If you sit with your spouse in the living room, what would you be speaking about on an evening after work? There are a million and one neutral topics to latch onto. From news bites, politics, sports, NHS, friends to the changing weather, traffic, train cancellations. You can also move unto the more 'about you' theme; what happened at work, what you had for lunch, what the kids got up to, wider family issues etc. Stretching it further, you can discuss more specific topics niggling at your heart; money (abundance or a lack of it) how you feel about anything, including how you feel about your partner, your interests, your pains or gains etc. If nothing else, tell your partner, you missed them today! It never hurts to make your partner feel special. So, your well of topics must never run dry.

Next, we move on to How to actually talk.

You can speak with your partner verbally (actually talking) or using body language; Eyes (winking, eyeballing, hard staring, eyebrow raising etc. Mouth; blowing a kiss, pouting, smiling. Head; nodding, slanting your head, shaking your head etc.).

Posture can be used to 'speak'. Your posture can show interest or a lack of it. When Pat shows her back to John as he's bubbling with excitement about what happened at work for example, she's telling him to 'shut up', that she's not interested. Of course, her negative vibes is picked up by John. Without speaking, she's told her partner that what he has to say about work isn't important to her at that precise moment.

What Pat should rather do is tell John in a cool voice that she would rather talk about something more urgent. When she has captured his attention, she can state whatever is bothering her. Pat must remember to come back to John's 'suspended' speech about what happened at work. That way, both of their interests are addressed and talking will flow both ways.

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Do You Talk To Your Spouse?

What a silly question you would say! Communication (or simply put, talking to one another) in marriage is as vital as blood supply in the human body. It sounds easy and pretty straightforward that you would expect two people in a marriage to speak openly about every issue under the sun. But as you know, it doesn't always happen that way.
Sometimes, people in relationships can't seem to talk to their spouse for many reasons.

Check out these scenarios;

1. Mrs. Wife can't talk to her husband about how sad or angry she's in her relationship because she's scared he might tell her to leave! Or, he might be too proud to admit that there's a problem and face up to it. Men generally don't like to discuss sensitive issues. Am I right? Instead, he talks tough and tells his wife to 'grow up'. What happens next? She learns not to tell him how she truly feels.

2. If there is no trust because Mr. Husband has reasons to doubt the truth about what he's been told by Mrs. Wife, then, he withdraws and decides to keep matters close to his hefty chest. He begins to watch her like a hawk, not even bothering to sit with his wife to discuss anything at all. When he comes home, the conversation is checquered. And as soon as he's finished his meal, he pleads tiredness and goes to bed. The woman stays awake angry...and the next day, the cycle continues...

3. Yet again, if Mrs. Wife thinks that her husband is narrow-minded, that is, he will usually be intolerant about any matter, then, such issues wouldn't be discussed openly with him. Take for example, Mr. Husband doesn't like his in-law, neighbour or climate change etc. When such topics come up in their conversation, he flares up and becomes a different person. That irrational behaviour drives a wall up his wife's heart, and before you know it, their communication pattern becomes shaky...

4. Again, Mrs. Wife has been listening to gossip that her husband is cheating on her. Next, she becomes paranoid, looking for evidence, real or imaginary to confirm the heresay. Then, Mr. Husband is rebuked for late coming or he's accused of infidelity or lying by his wife. He consistently repeats that he's innocent. But his claim of innocence falls on deaf ears. What happens next? There will be a stonewall in their relationship and talking openly about other issues between the couple ceases. Anger, seething rage, heartache and pain emerges as cracks on their relationship. Of course, the couple stops talking altogether...

5. What if Mr. Husband prefers to engage in newspaper reading, news/football watching, Wii/TV games or other 'antisocial' activities? Mrs. Wife feels left out and doesn't feel included and loved. She might decide to go on a revenge course that excludes him as well. It becomes a point scoring, tit-for-tat affair, that will eventually degenerate into an immature relationship.

In our next session, we'll discuss 'How To Talk To Your Spouse'.

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Where Did You Meet Your Partner?

This is the question that revolves in my head when I hear of troubled marriages. The real question is, does the location where you met your partner matter a great deal in ensuring the long-term success of your marriage? Honestly, to put this little matter at rest, I'd really like to conduct a poll. It will be illuminating to get feedback from readers on where you met your better half.
To set the ball rolling, I'll start with myself. I met my husband at a watch night service (the all important Christian worship that heralds the new year. It holds on the 31st of December each year) in my Church; Arcbishop Vinning Memorial Cathedral Church in Lagos, Nigeria.
Usually, I get into an argument with some friends about whether or not the fact that a couple met at a bar, in a hotel, at a restaurant, bus-stop, city centre, pole dancing club and even more exciting places is a recipe for short-term marriage?
My poll questions are; where did you first set eyes on your spouse? And how long have you been married? Your responses will make an interesting read and certainly, reader's feedback will put to rest the flaky bits about this rather knotty subject.

THE GARDENER's ICE MAIDEN - UPDATE

I have a quick update on my current challenge; writing a 50,000 words novel. I have penned down over 37,000 words of THE GARDENER's ICE MAIDEN. It's wonderfully exciting. I'm glad to tell you that Olivia the heroine has taken on a life of her own and Oliver, the hero is having to climb over his ex-convict, ex-gang member status to try and win over this medical doctor!

YOUR MOTIVE FOR MARRIAGE?

One question my husband always asks when he listens to marriage break-ups is, 'What was their motive for marrying each other?' and 'Where did they meet?' Often, we discuss and keep coming back to the basics.
If you're married, I would be delighted to hear from you on WHY you married your wife or husband.
It would be interesting to extend this topic further to talk about right and wrong reasons for marriage. This sounds very fundamental to me. But from personal interactions with many couples, it's possible that many people didn't quite explore their motives for marriage. You may wonder why this is relevant. I'll tell you how relevant your motive for marriage is to the sustainability of your relationship longterm.

Only yesterday (16/11/10), Prince William and Kate Meddleton announced their engagement. It's being long awaited. The whole world is buzzing with excitement. My husband and I were excited just watching Kate constantly look up at her Prince each time she was asked a question during the photocall and formal interview. And, watching William tap her hands and look at her in that romantic and supportive way brought back memoeries for us. Why is that, you may ask. During their interview, my husband told my two kids (10 and 7yrs old) that Kate Meddleton reminds him of me. He told them that during our Church wedding ceremony (4/12/99) we weren't listening to the Preacher or anyone else as we stared constantly into each other's eyes. Our kids laughed so hard. And my son confirmed that, 'Mummy still looks at you in the same way. You two make a perfect couple!'
I've been married for almost eleven years and I still thrust my hand through the crook of my husband's elbow even if we're going down the road or going to pick our kids from school.
I wish Prince William and Kate Meddleton long lasting happiness in their marriage. It's obvious that they are in love. When Kate was asked what she likes about her Prince - she said he was very supportive, he takes care of her, he teaches her... And Prince William said she had a sense of humour he liked and that she was special...
This is very much unlike Prince Charles and Lady Diana's wedding back in 1981. I remember watching that fairytale wedding on live television in Nigeria. I was only 9yrs old. Even then, their marriage seemed like a fairytale, nothing like LOVE oozing from Prince Charles eyes or arms...

Now lets go back to the reasons I married my husband almost eleven years ago. He is down-to-earth, very sensitive (when he takes a look at me, he can easily tell if I'm happy or sad...) exceptionally affectionate, romantic, disciplined (not going off doing anything in excess) he speaks a baggage of wise words... I felt like I'd known him all my life. I'd spent only a couple of hours with him when he popped the question of, 'Will you marry me?' Apparently, my husband knew me and had been planning on asking me to marry him, but I had no clue who he was. My story is so surreal, it's unbelievable. But that's what happens when you've spent endless hours praying for God's choice for you.

When your motive for marriage is pure, virtuous, honest etc. your marriage stands a good chance of weathering the stormy times that are sure to come down the years. But when your motives are dishonest or vile such as for financial security, on the rebound, because you're growing old, you want kids, or you want someone you can control, etc. When those motives expire or you are found out, your marriage might just hit the rocks. True or False?

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Next topic is; Where Did You Meet Your Partner?

THE GARDENER'S ICE MAIDEN

There is amazing news from Flirty and Feisty Romance Novels. Only yesterday, I entered a competition to write a brand new title called;THE GARDENER's ICE MAIDEN. It's an awesome challenge because I will have to start and complete this 50,000 words novel in November 2010. And, I started today, 6th November 2010!

I think I'm going a bit wacky! Why? You wonder. I'm still in the middle of editing my latest novel and here I am, embracing a whole, new, testy challenge. I love writing romance fiction. And if there's a competition anywhere in the world, I'd go for it headlong. Nothing gives me more pleasure than sitting by my computer with my fingers flying over the keys generating a brand new novel.

For our valued readers eagerly awaiting our promised upcoming new novel; BEYOND the LADY, which is due out before Christmas 2010, the schedule isn't affected by this new challenge.

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BEYOND the LADY

I've been neck deep editing my third, inspirational, romance novel; BEYOND the LADY...

I'm totally absorbed and carried away with the depth and strength of the characters I've created in Vanessa and Frederick. Their personalities are utterly arresting.
Vanessa is engaged in the age long career of prostitution. She's driven to it by events in her life. Fred on the other hand is a moralist, fired up with religion. Their coming together is unplanned, their staying together is contrived and the unfolding drama leaves you with a few streaks of tears and a kick in your chest...

BEYOND the LADY is a story inspired by the many years of global stigma tainting any young woman of Bini origin, who lived outside the walls of Benin City, Edo State, Nigeria.
The stigma is a direct consequence of the actions and exploits of young Bini ladies plying their trade as prostitutes in Italy.

I have found writing this story exciting, stimulating and thoroughly fulfilling.
BEYOND the LADY will be out before Christmas 2010 by God's Grace.

Would You Lie To Your Partner?

Sometimes, you hear people say they will lie to protect their spouse or family. At other times, some people say lying is acceptable if it means not hurting your partner.

Under what circumstance would lying to your spouse be acceptable? However, before we jump into answering that question, let's start from the basics; would you lie to your spouse at all? I mean, would your first instinct be to lie when asked a question by your partner? For example, you decide to stop over for a few drinks on your way from work with a few of your colleagues. But you hadn't mentioned it to your partner previously because it was a spontaneous outing. So, you run a bit late. You get a call from your partner asking you where you are and who you are with. Would your first reaction be to avoid speaking specifically about where you've been and who you've been with? Or would you naturally give your spouse the graphic details of your outing? Now, if you know your partner wouldn't be happy about your 'little outing', you might be tempted not to state the truth as it is, right? You might want to hesitate or discolour the simple facts. Therefore, you would have to lie or hold back the truth because you've done the exact opposite of what your partner would accept.
My take on that is, you've got to know what your spouse likes and dislikes. Discuss it and let him/her know that even though they dislike your going along to drinks with your colleagues, you enjoy loosening up right after a stressful day. When this simple matter is established and is accepted beforehand, you wouldn't need to lie or gloss over the facts.

If you can't be trusted with little things like, 'where have you been?', 'Why isn't my food ready?' etc. How can you be trusted with bigger issues such as; 'why are you back home so late?'

Personally, I don't think lying, discolouring the truth, paint brushing the lie or distorting the truth is necessary or sustainable at all.

My opinion?
Stick to the truth like magnet to metal and you wouldn't have anything to worry about in the long run. It's hard to keep track of lies. LIES have short legs. Lies aren't acceptable under any circumstance to me. When you lie (no matter how small, or white or black) trust is totally eroded. When TRUST evaporates in a relationship, nothing is left. Not even love. Because your partner becomes paranoid, suspecting you and watching you like a hawk. Eventually, you feel choked and the pressure gets to you. It's unhealthy for a relationship and it just might crack it open! Surely, your lies will eventually find you out because NOTHING is hidden under the sun.

I would really like readers views on this knotty issue

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HOW TO KEEP YOUR MAN 4!

Rule no 7; PRAY
In every aspects of life, especially in marriage, don't underestimate the power or role of prayer. When you're in difficulties, PRAY. When your relationship is thriving, thank GOD. If it's lukewarm, ask for GOD's wisdom (ideas) on how to spice it up!

When you took the fantastic decision to stand before your family and friends, in front of a Priest to love each other forever, you also swore in front of GOD. Therefore, never leave GOD out of the relationship. Am talking from experience. God answers prayers. All it takes is for YOU to believe He is a rewarder of those that diligently seek HIM and that HE LOVES YOU!