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Heartbreak
Then, one day, all your dreams of being together skips to a screeching end for one or a hundred reasons. You're in shock, because it can't be true! What happened to all the promises made when you held hands and stared into each other's eyes in the fading moonlight?
Denial
At first, you go into a state of denial. You approach your wife or boyfriend to try to talk through the issue. You want to make it work. But to your other half, your affair or relationship is over! Your time together is history. There's no more 'us'.
Withdrawal
You withdraw, become bitter, angry and depressed. You cry so much your eyes are sore. You feel your heart being stabbed through with a two edged knife. You feel your heart breaking into a million pieces, bleeding and you think you're going to die of heartache. You shut out the world and you lose the will to go on. Work becomes hard labour, food tastes like straw and you blame yourself for not being good enough.
You are not alone
Do you really think you're the only one who has suffered from a broken heart? No way! Many love songs are inspired from a broken heart. Listen to Adele's, 'Someone Like You'.
What you can do
A broken heart is a terrible experience that will change your life for good or for bad. I want to tell you that you can use that traumatic experience to change your life for good.
But first, don't go running head long into another affair! It has no chance of succeeding because you're hurting!
Don't turn to excess use of alcohol or any use of drugs because you'll destroy your power to be in control of your life.
Healing
You need time to heal. Contrary to what people think, you need to work through your broken affair in your head. Think about the good and bad times, what went wrong
If it was your fault, its notthe end of the world, accept the fact that you're human and you make mistakes.
Tell yourself that if the relationship was meant to last, he would have been more tolerant. And if he cheated on you and also broke up with you, tell yourself you deserve a more honourable man.
If you don't sort through your layers of emotional baggage, apportion blame to your heart's content, accept your faults, cherish the good times, learn from the whole experience, resent him or her for discarding you like you don't matter, you will not be able to forgive and go on.
Start Again
After you've suffered this emotional meltdown, you turn to your family or friends. You can start a new hobby like cooking, gardening, writing, pottery etc. You can join a gym to work out, feel good and learn to love yourself again.
Suddenly, anywhere you look, everyone seems to be in a relationship, but never mind, your time will come. Don't rush! Instead, keep busy and don't turn into a cynic! Not all men or women are like your heartless ex!
When your heart is truly mended, it's time to consider dating again. It may take a year or two, depending on how well adjusted you are.
One day, where you least expect and when you aren't expecting anything wonderful, someone will walk along your way that you will not believe can change your life for good. He will help you heal further, slowly make you start to trust again and your smile will be bigger than mine. But you have to be honest and true to yourself.
Finally
I suffered two unpleasant life changing heartbreaks before I got married. I have been married thirteen years and it's been the best years of my life. My husband is more than my dream come true. I have God to thank for everything.
Never give up on love.
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6 comments:
Tracing the reasons for broken relationship is part of the healing process. The if, who, when, how does not add any painting to your new life. A relationship must be treated like a new born baby that must be kept away from "cold and foreign bodies". The mistake you must not make is, not to take your relationship for granted because the number of years does not immune your relationship from break up.
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